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The pre-baby bucket list

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This pre-baby bucket list is brought to you by the wrong side of 3am.  I’d forgotten about the insomnia that starts getting you ready for the total sleep deprivation that is having a newborn. But here I am at 3am after lying in bed for the last hour trying to sleep.  It all seems rather unfair really.  Or maybe if we went into having a newborn on a sleep high the comparison would be so bad we’d never go again. So maybe it’s an evolutionary thing?

 

Welcome to my brain at a time of night/morning that no one should have to really deal with. You can thank the internet for that.

 

At 24 weeks I feel like we are now racing towards the finish line. Especially as the next few months will be filled with 7 more weeks of work, madly trying to finish renovating, Christmas and the new year.  I’m sure by the time I remember to take a breath again I will be 40 weeks and ready to welcome little boy two.

 

And whilst I’m trying to just take it all in my stride, I have to admit I have had a few cases of “oh my god I’m never going to have time to myself ever again and I barely have a minute now!” freak outs that have me thinking that maybe I should be using this time now a little more wisely.

 

Like maybe I should be going into yoga more often instead of collapsing on the couch after work. Maybe I should be making more of an effort to catch up with friends before any social event becomes a mammoth effort in nap timing. And maybe I should be ticking off more of my ‘to dos’ before we become a family of four.

 

Which made me think I should have a pre-baby bucket list of all the things I’m unlikely to find easy (or be able to do at all for a couple of years once I’m back at square one in the baby game).

 

1. Take a short road trip/ holiday

2. Go away for the weekend kid-free (oh except for the one in my belly of course) – who wants to volunteer their toddler-sitting skills?

3. Take Eamon to Australia Zoo  – I’ve been meaning to do this for a while, although in writing this, I’m not sure what would be worse, walking my heavily pregnant self around this place, or walking a newborn? Thoughts?

4. Spend the afternoon reading. Bonus points if it’s not pregnancy/ kid related.

5. Try kundalini yoga.

6. Get a massage.

7. Spend an afternoon shopping, without toddler wrangling.

8. Date night.

9. Girl’s night.

10. skydiving. (kidding, just checking if you were still reading!)

 

So… what have I missed?  What do I need to now before it’s too late? (and yes I know that’s dramatic but we all know it’s true!)

 

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DIY IKEA chair cushion cover

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Gradually it’s slowly dawning on me that I probably should prepare for this baby in some way or another.  As we still haven’t finished upstairs I can’t actually set anything up (and it’s driving me crazy, but that’s another story), but I’m slowly finding all the pieces that have been hiding in the garage and getting them ready for round two.

 

The chair I used in the nursery last time was looking very sad when I pulled it out.  The cushion cover was completely mouldy and no amount of bleach or sunshine would get rid of the stains so I decided a new cover was the only way to go.

 

What you need.

Approximately 2 metres of sturdy fabric

 

Step 1. Cut your fabric so that it crosses over (at least 15cm) on the longest side and allow 1.5cm seam allowance on the short side.  {At this point, don’t be have a baby brain moment and forget like I did that the top of the cushion (head rest) folds back down, otherwise you’ll have to waste time cutting it down to size later}

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Step Two. Hem both of the long sides.

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Step 3. With right sides together, fold your fabric back over the cushion and pin the top two layers (so that you can still remove the cushion).  Remove the cushion and pin the bottom layer together as well. Sew both ends.

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Step 4. Turn the cover right way out and insert the cushion.  {Depending on how much of an overlap you left, you may like to add buttons or velcro to keep the back together. I went with the lazy ‘it’ll be right’ option}

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Step 5. Put the chair back together and attempt to take a picture whilst your toddler demands your attention.

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Introducing my new baby – Mothering the Soul

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Nothing makes me prouder than being able to finally release this ‘baby’ out into the world today.  It’s gestation has been well over a year in the making and much like making a real baby, it’s been uncomfortable, tiring, exciting and scary all rolled into one.

 

But I think this part is the scariest of all – putting my words and thoughts out there in the big bad world for all of you to see.  (and yes I know I do that regularly here on this blog but somehow this feels different. More important somehow?)

 

I’ve had many conversations with my own head – ‘What if they hate it?’ ‘What if no one reads it?’ ‘What if it’s all been a waste of time?’  And I’ve sat on a mostly completed book for months now wondering whether I should release it or not.

 

And then I proofread it one last time.  And my own words gave me a kick up the bum to get over all those self-created barriers and just put it out there.

 

It also reminded me of things I needed to keep doing for myself that I had let slide over the last few months. (dedicated time for me to exercise, doing small things every day to get the things I want to do for me).

 

And I realised it doesn’t matter if no one reads it.  At the end of the day, the messages I wrote down were the ones I needed to hear.  And if they only reach one other Mother or lots, it doesn’t matter, because they’ve already changed me.

 

If you’d like to know more about Mothering the Soul you can find more information here. Please, be kind. ;)

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Blue days

blue days

Do you ever have those days where you just feel down for no particular reason? Where nothing remarkable happens and you spend the majority of the day just feeling flat?

 

I’m sure it’s a total first world problem but one I’ve had trouble shaking myself out of lately.  The last few days even the smallest tasks feel like a huge deal. Eamon’s melt downs (which usually don’t affect me) have me either reacting in anger or joining him for a good ol’ cry. (Which I’m sure confuses him no end.) I’m also positive that’s number one in the “what not to do with the toddler manual” but I just can’t seem to help it.

 

Things I’ve cried over in the last few days have included; a pile of washing up that just seemed too big to tackle, spilt nail polish, having to go to the toilet for the thousandth time after going to bed, having nothing to do, having too much to do… you get the idea.

 

Today I decided I needed to stop moping around and get myself out of this mood.

 

I tried…

– making something for myself.  Failed. {Eamon grabbed all of my beads and threw them under the couch}

– chocolate. Failed.

– cleaning the house. Failed {why I thought this would work, I have no idea?}

– organising beach catch up with friends. Failed. {thanks rain!}

– going for a proper ‘get your heart pumping’ walk by myself on the beach.  Winning!

 

I don’t think I’m completely out of my funk but I defintely feel a LOT better for finally doing some exercise without answering a million and one questions at the same time.

 

Moral of the story. I need to move my butt more.

 

Can you relate?  Do you find yourself having blue days for no particular reason?

 

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DIY Ombre Crochet Throw

I’ve been doing a fair bit of internet shopping for homewares recently.  I am dying to start nesting. Andrew tells me ‘we are nesting – we are creating a whole house! But unfortunately construction is not really cutting it with my need to make the house clean and tidy and decorate with soft things.

 

I found a teal crochet throw somewhere (Adairs or Pillowtalk?) that I loved, but my cheapskate ways couldn’t justify the over $100 price tag for something that really doesn’t do anything other than look pretty.

 

But then I found this white crochet throw courtesy of someone’s Grandma at our local second hand store for $20 and knew that it needed to come home with me and get a dye job.  I decided to make mine two tone/ ombre colours and am really happy with how it turned out.  Typically, the bowerbird in me picked two shades of blue, but I’m sure you could mix any two as long as they don’t clash to make brown (unless that’s your thing!).

 

What you need:

Bucket or pot large enough to submerge throw

Boiling water

Two different shades/ coloured dye

Throw

DIY ombre throw

 

+ Fill the bucket with hot water and mix in dye. (I started with my lighter colour)

+ Submerge 1/4 of the throw, hang the rest over the side and leave to sit. (The dry fabric will start sucking up the water as well). I left mine overnight.

+ Quickly submerge the rest of the throw before draining the water and squeezing it out.

+ Let it sit for 5 minutes before throwing it in the washing machine for a rinse cycle.

+ Hang to dry.

+ You could leave it here or you could do as I did and repeat the process with a darker colour to deepen the ombre effect.

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Then all you need to do is finally get your couch out of storage and set up your house so that you have something to decorate with your beautiful new throw.

 

Oh wait, that’s just me.

 

What do you think? Do you have an old throw lying around that needs an update?

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What a difference a year makes

what a difference a year makes

If this time last year you told me that in a years time I would be 22 weeks pregnant, renovating another house in our dream location by the beach and in a really good place in my relationship, I would have laughed at you. And then probably had a big Ol’ ugly cry as well.

 

Last year we didn’t celebrate our anniversary. In fact I escaped to my parents place because the day just served as a reminder of how we had let everything fall apart. We barely managed to say ‘happy anniversary’ over the phone and I can still feel that painful lump in my throat thinking about it.

 

This year we laughed at ourselves as we took a ‘family trip’ to the newsagent to get our cards the day before. We may have written on them whilst fighting a toddler who wanted to get a piece of the card scribbling and ripping action but what we each wrote showed just how far we’ve come in a year. And we appreciated every minute of our night out together, because we really know just how lucky we are to have pulled our shit together in time.

 

I guess it really does show you how in our dark moments, when we can’t even imagine feeling good again, that we just need to trust that time really will make it better.  That in a years time the pain will fade, people will change and that life will give you what you need if you keep working towards it.

 

Where were you this time last year?

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Lessons in style; lessons in life.

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Last Friday night our Kindred circle featured the lovely Nikki Parkinson from Styling You. She gave us a run down of her top tips for putting simple outfits together and having organised wardrobe.  But not only did I come away with some lessons in style but also how that flows on into other areas of our life.

 

I personally loved that she doesn’t advocate for a certain style, rather finding YOUR personal style. The type of clothing that lights you up when you wear it.

 

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I definitely took home some tips I needed to do asap. The first was going through my entire wardrobe, packing away the winter stuff (and everything that doesn’t currently fit whilst I’m pregnant) and only keeping those clothes that I love and feel great in.

 

I struggled a little bit with this. I don’t know about you, but growing up we always had ‘play’ clothes and ‘good’ clothes. And it probably sounds crazy but this is something I have taken into my adult life as well. I have a whole collection of clothes that are daggy and unflattering and I only ever wear them at home. But why do I do that to myself? It just means whilst I am at home I mostly feel like a hot mess and have to do the mad dash to change if someone ever drops over unexpectedly. But no more.

 

Except for a few painting/ renovating clothes I have ditched the daggy home clothes. Sure I still go for comfy, after all I’m sitting on the floor most of the day and crawling around after toys but there really is no reason that my home clothes shouldn’t make me feel good as well.

 

And that’s pretty much the life lesson I took away from Friday night. After listening to the stories of some of the other ladies, it struck me how much our appearance (or at least the effort we put into it) affects how we feel about ourselves. I know it’s definitely true for me, but when I feel good, I am more productive and am less likely to sloth around all day.  And if it is as simple as putting a small amount of effort in each day to feel on top of life, then I vote it’s worth it.

 

What about you? Are you a daggy home dresser? Does it affect the way you feel?

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DIY shabby colour dipped dining table

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I found the inspiration for this dining table on Pinterest months ago.  Unfortunately though the link was broken and there was no tutorial so I had to work out how to do it myself.  I’m so in love with how it turned out and want to go paint all my furniture now!

 

What you need.

Timber table (I found mine on gumtree for $80)

Sample pot of your chosen colour

Sandpaper

Paintbrushes

Clear timber varnish (I used Bondall Monocel in ultragloss)

 

Step 1. Remove legs (or tape around top). Lightly sand back legs until smooth. I screwed mine onto a piece of board to hold them upright whilst I worked. (Actually I got Andrew to do this, but you know, same same.)

 

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Step 2. Paint at least two coats of your colour, lightly scuffing back in between coats.

 

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Step 3. Sand paint back to reveal timber underneath. I concentrated on edges and highlighting other imperfections

 

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Step 4. Take a break to play monster trucks.

 

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Step 5. Wipe down legs to remove all dust and spray a coat of varnish.  Leave to dry overnight. Scuff back with a fine sandpaper. Wipe down and repeat.  (I put 3 coats of varnish on mine).

 

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Step 6.  Re-attach your legs and admire your work.  Now I just need to find some chairs!

 

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What do you think? Have you tried refashioning your furniture?

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Sugar free choc-peppermint bliss balls

These delicious sugar free choc-peppermint bliss balls really need no introduction. Full of good things and they’re delicious.  Trust me, they won’t last long with toddlers around.

 

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Ingredients

1 cup rolled oats

1 cup shredded coconut

1 cup sunflower seeds

1/2 cup pepitas

1/4 cup cocoa

1/2 cup honey

2 teaspoons of peppermint essence

small amount of water to get the right consistency

 

Method

Place all ingredients in a blender and process until mixture starts to form a dough like consistency.

Roll into balls and place into the fridge.

Hide them from your little people so that you can eat them when they go to bed!

 

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Yoga practice and pregnancy.

So after writing the other day over at The Kindred Collective about how I’d really got into the habit of ‘going with the flow’ of this whole motherhood thing and specifically not resisting all the changes that each stage brings (like last time), I’ve caught myself really resenting the changes that are happening in one area of my life…

 

Yoga.

 

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I feel like I’ve only really ‘found my place’ with yoga this year. If that’s even a thing. And not that I wasn’t enjoying it before, but more that it was very much a solo thing for me before and any progress felt very slow.

 

This year? I’m teaching in a studio that I love with people who feel like ‘my people’. I have (had) a regular home practice and could really feel the difference. I’ve been doing extra workshops and was even looking into further study.

 

And then… I started not feeling like myself. Which turned out to be a welcome but surprise pregnancy.

 

At first the changes to my yoga practice were minimal. Other than the fact that I was more tired than usual, I could still do everything I would usually practice.

 

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But now that I have a substantial bump and get lightheaded from low blood pressure my practice has had to completely change.

 

I visit child’s pose more regularly. Every pose is modified to make room for an ever-expanding belly. Anything that involves lying on my belly is just not possible and every transition is much much slower.

 

But the hardest part?

 

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Getting my ego out of the way and being ok that this is my yoga practice now. I have to fight myself out of feeling like I ‘haven’t really practiced’ when I leave a class and I haven’t actually left the floor for any of the standing poses. I need to let go of doing headstands and handstands and forearm stands, because whilst I can still technically do these things, there is more chance of injuring myself and I know the risk isn’t really worth it. So why is it that I still feel the need to resist the change?

 

I guess it’s because it feels like the start of all the things I know I won’t be able to do for a while. And whilst I can write about the need to surrender to motherhood (and in most areas I have), sometimes I just find it so damn hard to let go when it means I can’t do the things I love anymore.

 

What about you? Is there something you used to love doing that you miss now that you’re pregnant/ a mother? Did you find yourself resenting the change… even just a little bit?

 

The tights and tank featured in this post were gifted to me by Queen Bee Maternity (and thank god they did – none of my yoga pants were working for me anymore and I’m not really into #nakedyoga – ain’t nobody who wants to see that!)